True Relationships- True Love

There is an excitement in relationships. "When we see each other or are apart, there is expectancy of being together, of laughing and talking. That expectancy has no concrete definition; it is alive and dynamic and everything that emerges from our being together is a unique gift shared by no one else. But what happens if I change that 'expectancy' to an 'expectation' - spoken or unspoken? Suddenly, law has entered into our relationship. You are now expected to perform in a way that meets my expectations. Our living friendship rapidly deteriorates into a dead thing with rules and requirements. It is no longer about you and me,"- Wm. Paul Young

When I want a person to act or dress or talk or be a certain way to be near them, the relationship ends and a hierarchy begins. Anyone not willing to be under my control will either not care and simply be themselves or will try to fulfill my expectations and both will eventually be pushed away by my rules. Love is only truly love when it has no conditions.